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Introduction
In modern developed nations, men are losing their testicles at a rapid rate. With the advent of internet dating, men are also hiding behind their insecurities. We must rise above this bullshit and set an example that stands for the remainder of human existence. We must reform ourselves and build ourselves up to be indestructible fearless machines capable of anything, capable of turning any thought into a reality. Through these actions, the men we inspire will regain testicular volume, and the epidemic of lowered testosterone will end once and for all and we will have world peace.

Purpose
To learn from mistakes, to learn from successes, and become glorious.
Improve mental stability, sociability, easygoingness, insecurity, fear, interpersonal relations, and cultivate emotional intelligence.

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  • approach and/or converse with attractive women
  • post story
  • modify post with follow-ups such as good times
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Post one story per interaction. Format is up to you, you are the narrators. If something else pops up I'll add it here later.
« Last Edit: March 15, 2013, 07:27:04 pm by Avishek »
"Performance during stretch-shortening cycle exercise is influenced by the visco-elastic properties of the muscle-tendon units. During stretching of an activated muscle, mechanical energy is absorbed in the tendon structures (tendon and aponeurosis) and this energy can subsequently be re-utilized if shortening of the muscle immediately follows the stretching. According to Biscotti (2000), 72% of the elastic energy restitution action comes from tendons, 28% - from contractile elements of muscles.

http://www.verkhoshansky.com/Portals/0/Presentations/Shock%20Method%20Plyometrics.pdf

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Re: Real life experiences: approaching and conversing with hot women.
« Reply #1 on: March 16, 2013, 02:27:15 am »
+1
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3v-eEid40TU" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3v-eEid40TU</a>

Ive meant to say this for a while but Avishek is this you?
Goals: Cutting to 6-8% bodyfat

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Re: Real life experiences: approaching and conversing with hot women.
« Reply #2 on: March 16, 2013, 07:44:20 am »
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The last number pick up (about 2 weeks ago, I don't go out much lol)

Was having lunch with two mates at this super chill organic cafe just down the road from uni.

Filipino chick comes in with her dog, late 20's,  fit body, tanned, ok face, typical beach/hippie type chick with heaps of bracelets, anklets, beads ect...

Not that I was really concerned with, but I detected the IOI's (proximity-she came and sat at the table right next to us, gazing ect).

As we where talking (about training  :headbang: one of my mates sees some friends of his enter the cafe from the other side, and excuses us to go catch up with them.

So this chick has been glancing at us and mirin the whole time (about 5 minutes while we where talking and she was waiting there with her dog). As some conversational gaps started coming up between my mate and I, I decided to drop her line. Just as I was about to ask about her dog (which turned out was a kelpie) she asked me some thing like 'am I one of those fitness guys' ....

After about 5 minutes of chatting about fitness, eating well ect ect (we actually had a lot to talk about, conversation was easy with her), sussing out her persona (very upbeat, confident, open, makes conversation easy) I thought I'd try escalate just for fun to see where I could get.... Got closer and started playing with the dog a bit as a medium, went in to kino by asking about her jewelry and feeling around, getting her to story tell about each piece (she got bangles from bali I recall), then upped the eye contact and name dropping (moira), started slowing down my pace, got closer to test her compliance, and she wasn't showing any signs of disinterest/alarm.

All the while my mate was sitting there saying barely anything, would have been awkward for him, he was on the other side of the table......

So after about 10 minutes in total, I decided to grab the number and lead on by saying how great it would be if we went down for a surf and stuff..... my other mate got back, her friend she was waiting for arrived (rank minger, 5/10) and we did our own thing.... said goodbye and left.

I texted her a bit, just small talk, I cbf organizing anything as I'm generally busy and cbf with dates these days unless she's something I feel is 'worth it'......

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Yeah I don't really do this stuff with intent that often anymore (giving 100% focus) unless I'm introduced to a super rare hot babe, or someone that ticks all the boxes (someone I am interested in a long term relationship with), or in cases where it progresses (you have classes with a chick, have time to build up rapport over a few days/weeks ect, or they are in the same social circle so you see them often).......... I'm just trying to focus on other areas of my life more so at the moment (excelling at uni, working my career pathways)

Buuut I gotta start being more relaxed and just number closing/gaming for the hell of it, with just about any chick I interact with, I been so focused on uni/work these days I barely give women attention unless I know I can get an easy root. Would probably make me less stressed these days too....

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« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2013, 02:16:29 am »
+1
Yeah it all comes down to how you interpret the situation, and how you walk away from it, good or bad.

I have a lot of mates who when get turned down, it's a massive blow to their ego. Instead of approaching it logically and considering that maybe she was having a bad day, she may have just had a break up, heck, maybe even her mum or a close relative could have died recently, there's plenty of reasons a girl may not be in a sociable mood and receptive towards a stranger opening them and engrossing in conversation and flirting.

Then there are many girls who are just typically shy and introverted, and not used to getting approached in that manner, so they may not know how to react to keep the situation comfortable.

You have no idea what she's thinking or whats going on in her life, so it's not your fault.

Then again you do get a small percentile who purposefully are bitches (for whatever reasons, parental problems, abuse ect), but their not the type of people you should be looking to involve in your life anyway.

It can also go both ways, I've had a lot of girls open to me and show lots of interest (randoms and through social venues) and I'm usually busy thinking about something else like training, work, assignments that are due ect ect


In my opinion, paradoxically, cold approaching is the hardest and easiest way to meet girls (in terms of establishing a connection and attaining approval it's hard, but doing it is as simple as going to the shops). Considering most people meet partners through friends and through friends of friends, or they are hooked up. It makes it a lot easier, as you don't have to worry about being socially correct, and also your on an even playing field, she'll be more comfortable as your not a total stranger, neither a risk because you have the group/friends validation.

This is only something I realized as I got older and matured.

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« Reply #4 on: March 25, 2013, 10:21:03 pm »
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TLDR, introduction is bullshit.
Muscles are nonsensical they have nothing to do with this bullshit.

- Avishek

sunday: long very easy run 80+ mins @ 5:40+ (14+ km)
monday: strength/cross training
tuesday: extensive tempo (7 km) OR fartlek (mostly easy pace with mix of strides, hills, long tempo) 45 mins (8+ km)
wednesday: easy run 60+ mins @ 5:20-5:30 (11+ km)
thursday: easy run 60+ mins @ 5:20-5:30 (11+ km), strength/cross-training
friday: rest
saturday: short tempo 6-8x500 @ sub-4:00 (7 km)

strength would be:
- hops 2x10
- box jumps or ME SVJ 2x5
- squats 3x6-8 or weighted BSS/lunges 3x10/leg
- RDL/hypers 2x10-12 or SLRDL 2x10-12/leg
- upper push myo-reps or sets to technical failure
- upper pull myo-reps or sets to technical failure
- leg raises, holds, pallof presses

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« Reply #5 on: March 26, 2013, 08:17:33 am »
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TLDR, introduction is bullshit.

Introduction? In where?

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« Reply #6 on: March 26, 2013, 09:36:32 am »
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TLDR, introduction is bullshit.

Introduction? In where?

Introduction
In modern developed nations, men are losing their testicles at a rapid rate. With the advent of internet dating, men are also hiding behind their insecurities. We must rise above this bullshit and set an example that stands for the remainder of human existence. We must reform ourselves and build ourselves up to be indestructible fearless machines capable of anything, capable of turning any thought into a reality. Through these actions, the men we inspire will regain testicular volume, and the epidemic of lowered testosterone will end once and for all and we will have world peace.

Muscles are nonsensical they have nothing to do with this bullshit.

- Avishek

sunday: long very easy run 80+ mins @ 5:40+ (14+ km)
monday: strength/cross training
tuesday: extensive tempo (7 km) OR fartlek (mostly easy pace with mix of strides, hills, long tempo) 45 mins (8+ km)
wednesday: easy run 60+ mins @ 5:20-5:30 (11+ km)
thursday: easy run 60+ mins @ 5:20-5:30 (11+ km), strength/cross-training
friday: rest
saturday: short tempo 6-8x500 @ sub-4:00 (7 km)

strength would be:
- hops 2x10
- box jumps or ME SVJ 2x5
- squats 3x6-8 or weighted BSS/lunges 3x10/leg
- RDL/hypers 2x10-12 or SLRDL 2x10-12/leg
- upper push myo-reps or sets to technical failure
- upper pull myo-reps or sets to technical failure
- leg raises, holds, pallof presses

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« Reply #7 on: March 26, 2013, 09:39:59 am »
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I meant - introduction of "what" in "where"?

Nevermind, one of my "Raptor jokes" :D

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« Reply #8 on: March 26, 2013, 11:44:35 am »
+1
I meant - introduction of "what" in "where"?

Nevermind, one of my "Raptor jokes" :D

Terrible, terrible call.

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« Reply #9 on: March 27, 2013, 12:59:00 am »
+6
i have girls smile and say hi to me all of the time, i say hi back and nod/smile but never pursue it. too busy. must code+unix, no distractions.

that's my story.

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« Reply #10 on: March 27, 2013, 01:01:01 am »
+1
i have girls smile and say hi to me all of the time, i say hi back and nod/smile but never pursue it. too busy. must code+unix, no distractions.

that's my story.


I love this^^^

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« Reply #11 on: March 27, 2013, 03:37:11 pm »
+5
i have girls smile and say hi to me all of the time, i say hi back and nod/smile but never pursue it. too busy. must code+unix, no distractions.

that's my story.

Muscles are nonsensical they have nothing to do with this bullshit.

- Avishek

sunday: long very easy run 80+ mins @ 5:40+ (14+ km)
monday: strength/cross training
tuesday: extensive tempo (7 km) OR fartlek (mostly easy pace with mix of strides, hills, long tempo) 45 mins (8+ km)
wednesday: easy run 60+ mins @ 5:20-5:30 (11+ km)
thursday: easy run 60+ mins @ 5:20-5:30 (11+ km), strength/cross-training
friday: rest
saturday: short tempo 6-8x500 @ sub-4:00 (7 km)

strength would be:
- hops 2x10
- box jumps or ME SVJ 2x5
- squats 3x6-8 or weighted BSS/lunges 3x10/leg
- RDL/hypers 2x10-12 or SLRDL 2x10-12/leg
- upper push myo-reps or sets to technical failure
- upper pull myo-reps or sets to technical failure
- leg raises, holds, pallof presses

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« Reply #12 on: May 10, 2013, 05:44:40 am »
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might as well update this.

I stopped talking to new girls a few weeks ago because I met a few I like and don't want to get distracted anymore. After the semester gets out things will get more interesting but right now I'm focusing entirely on school and don't care about girls anymore, partly because I only like approaching women I feel very attracted to, and that's very very few. I've learned what my type is a bit more and really am not going to waste time talking to women randomly if I don't really think I'll be attracted to them.

This.Exactly.

She def doesn't have time for this stuff. I don't either who am I kidding. She's super popular and has like dozens and dozens of likes on her facebook profile photos. Does anyone understand that shit? the most likes i've ever gotten is 16, and that was on a really nice professional looking photo. Outrageous.

I'm sorry but when guys say shit like this it really pisses me off. Their girls. It's facebook. What the fuck does a facebook like matter at all, in any sense, unless your operating on the basis of promotion purposes for a business/campaign? It makes me laugh that people still consider those sort of things to hold any value/significance.

Sorry for the condescension, but it never fails to frustrate me when either sex blows up irrelevant things like that..... I remember this girl I dated back in high school who admitted to me how self conscious she got over the fact that she didn't have her license at the time, and how she wasn't planning on going to uni, not that it mattered to me one bit because I liked her for who she was.

Just my opinion. Sorry for ranting, you where probably just putting it out there what you noticed, don't mean to come down on you like a cynical mofo...


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« Reply #13 on: May 12, 2013, 02:01:12 am »
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I'm sorry but when guys say shit like this it really pisses me off. Their girls. It's facebook. What the fuck does a facebook like matter at all, in any sense, unless your operating on the basis of promotion purposes for a business/campaign? It makes me laugh that people still consider those sort of things to hold any value/significance.

No problem. I'm a difficult person to understand and sometimes I do things or say things for humor, and this is one of them, sort of.

I completely understand your point, and a previous version of me a few years ago would also be laughing that I am now at a wiser older age concerned with facebook likes on profile photos, a meaningless distraction. I'm not interested in the likes because I'm self-conscious about myself in anyway and looking for affirmation, hell no. I am purely interested in the psychology behind it. My concern with this stems from my desire to experiment, that's all.
 
I would like to know WHY some people have an extraordinary amount of facebook likes, and others just don't. I think girls on average would have higher amount of facebook likes because their beauty is valued more or something, but I'm surprised when some men receive so many likes and others don't on profile pics. I don't know if it's because they are more popular (most likely), good looking, or more accepted by society (goes hand and hand with popular).

I would go on but I know nobody is as fascinated in this phenomenon as I am.

No, no, I love social psychology and group theory ect, lets discuss!

I didn't mean you where self conscious about it, sorry if it came off in that manner, I wrote that first reply at the end of a long day I must have been in a shitty mood lol. It's just that I've noticed that trend a lot and it gets on my nerves because society in general is concerned with such superfluous and shallow things and it's dumbed us down, and also become an obstacle in consolidating our relationships with one another as humans on a deeper level. I believe this sociocultural juxtaposition of western society is a by product of commercialism, the mass media and corporatism. 

Females in general, especially the physically attractive ones, are placed on a pedestal and prized. Physical appeal is a signifier of virility, as well as artistically pertinent (modelling, the arts ect) Is it vanity? or does it have deeper roots in evolutionary psychology? It's open for interpretation.
I'd say this goes both ways, however males have a greater inclination to be leaders, protectors, financially secure ect i.e the head of the family, the provider. Although in the 21st century gender roles have not been so uniform with concurrent changes in academic and corporate sectors, equality and a whole bunch of other factors. Whether we choose to accept this or not, I believe it occurs at a conscious and subconscous level when we are contemplating someone as a partner.

More commonly though, a lot of young people seek attention and validation. The concept of popularity in high school is a mere minutia representative of the social ladder. Guys when their younger also tend to basically follow their dick, not their head or their hearts, e.g 'if I like her fb pic, its only a matter of time before I get in her pantz broooo' 1+1=:motherofgod:

Or maybe where just thinking too much, being the strength geeks that we are, and haven't considered that some people just have more friends on facebook, use it more as a networking tool than others, and thus get more receptivity, and happen to have a larger social circle. I've met a lot of people who have been massive catalysts in my life, extremely genuine, honest, successful and powerful people in real life, and their facebook is far from a decent portrait of their true selves and their values, how they carry themselves ect. On the other hand, I notice so many people who give off a false representation of themselves and their character and lifestyle via facebook, and are louse human beings when you meet them face to face and get to know them. I think it's partly egotistical, but at the same time how we carry ourselves is important because we don't know how other people may be perceiving us (looking up to us ect).   

This video really helped me see things from another perspective(watch it from 3:40, and be patient. forget them crapping on about the other stuff)

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIhM9RTwLv8" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIhM9RTwLv8</a>

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« Reply #14 on: May 17, 2013, 07:30:28 am »
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I agree with a lot of what you said, I definitely go with the flow of life and try not to let any certain ideology dictate my existence and opinions, however I try to follow my intuition and learn from it (experience, mistakes). That's just my opinion though, its not right or wrong.

Individual experience and disposition without a doubt shapes our perspectives and attitudes, as was in the case of the whole facebook likes topics. Thus they are subject to continual alteration, however, over time I believe values slowly establish, and need to be. You where coming from a place of curiosity, meanwhile my abrupt response was much in part due to past experiences, which predisposes me to having a low tolerance to people who mention things like that (I have a low tolerance to people in general lol), which I at first find, are ridiculous.       
 
About technology impairing our relationships, I think its a weak excuse and is exaggerated. It assists us to meet new people as you said, and helps us connect especially in long distance relationships and for networking purposes as highlighted.
I think the quandary is with the change in interpersonal dynamics, and older generations largely believe it reduces face to face talk, which some people hold in high regard to be sentimental and meaningful. Maybe it is the option technology has given us to manage our relationships (the convenience of sending a emoticon/smiley) in contrast to taking the time out to see someone in person. Many interpret this to be a paradigm shift synonymous with the fast paced nature of western society.

At the end of the day though, its all how you interpret it. Everyone is free to live by their own values, and so they should be.